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Our Addiction to being a Victim <<< the Karpman Drama Triangle

I recently read a blog by one of my favorite teachers, Melody Beattie.* We also use her work in my school, The S.W.A.T. Institute. Melody had asked a fellow therapist "what the one thing was that hallmarked the unhappy state of being many of us have come to label as codependency." “It’s the Karpman Drama [...]

I am safe. My body is safe. My future is safe.

I have to tell you that over the past six months, I have reawakened! It all began with a new Facebook group I created called "Simply...Woman! Love Your Body, Love Your Life". I had no idea where it would take me! Huge! Incredible! Life-saving! In fact, I have gained so much more than the twenty-five [...]

True Story: Twenty-years ago today, this happened!

Exactly twenty years ago today, February 23rd, 1997, I wrote in a journal for the first time. My first sentence was: I just want to be empowered. At the time, I was a young, stay-at-home mother. My eldest daughter, Madelaine, had just turned two. My baby, Julia, was two days away from her three-month birthday. [...]

Why diets don’t work << blah blah >> and why my video just had over 28,000 views in two days!

Sometimes we just need to hear it straight. No BS. No exaggerating. No making promises of ridiculous claims and unheard of results. That's what I did the other night during a live Facebook chat where I explained why dieting is bullshit; New Year's resolutions suck, and why you're sabotaging. I told the truth. I'm not [...]

Christmas Shopping Represents Your Life

I was at Winner's the other day doing a little Christmas shopping when a stranger came up to me and told me she 'loved how quickly I made decisions.' I laughed, wondering why a stranger was paying attention to how I chose my purchases. She went on: "I just watched you walk down the aisle, [...]

The best way to fight is to write. Let me teach you how.

Boy, oh boy, what a time of unrest; there is still so much confusion, uncertainty and fear for many. For some, the election results have reactivated old injustices from our pasts--almost like 'reopened court cases' where we know that no one will ever pay for their crimes against us, and humanity. We feel our anger. [...]

What To Do When Peace Feels Passive

It's Thanksgiving here is Canada today. A bizarre concept, I know, for my American friends who don't celebrate it for another month or so... (maybe our crops are harvested much earlier than yours because of our cold Autumn nights?? Not sure. I"m going to go discover why we don't celebrate it on the same day [...]

Do You Have Emotional Flashbacks?

I wonder if you are like me--someone who experiences 'emotional flashbacks'? You're going about your day . . . say 'opening your mail when someone knocks on your front door' and you instantly feel stress. They start knocking louder and more forcefully, so you pretend you're not home and silently creep up the stairs, feeling [...]

Too fit! Too fat! Too hard! Too soft! Too much like a woman…

If you've only just recently met me, you may find it hard to imagine that for most of my life I was a fitness guru. Literally, I ran 10 kilometres daily and rocked out my 'step classes' with choreography that could make any dancer froth with excitement. I owned gyms and personal training studios. I taught yoga [...]

When Your Friends & Family Can’t Celebrate Your Shine

It’s a funny thing that happens with the people in our lives when ‘good luck, hard work, and success’ come our way. Many friends and family members don’t know how to respond . . . how to support . . . how to say “WOW, CONGRATULATIONS! I’M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!” I’m sure you’ve had times yourself [...]

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